Sunday, May 17, 2009

17. The Relationship

Describe Gatsby's relationship with Daisy.

7 comments:

  1. Gatsby and Daisy met a while back when he was a young soldier and she was a young girl. Gatsby instantly fell in love with Daisy. However, he had to lie to her to appear to be rich and in high status. After he was off to war, he slowly started growing his fortune. Meanwhile, Daisy married Tom Buchanan, although she had promised Gatsby that she would wait for him. However, she couldn’t wait, and when wealthy Tom asked her to marry him, she decided she could not wait for Gatsby. After many years, Gatsby finds where Daisy lives and buys a mansion near her house. “Gatsby bought that house so that Daisy would be just across the bay.” (Fitzgerald 83) The sole reason for Gatsby’s throwing the parties is so that he may meet Daisy if she decides to come to the parties. To Gatsby, Daisy was a charming, sophisticated woman he wanted. He did everything he could to get her again. Gatsby treats her with respect and love. I think he is stuck in the past. He does not realize that circumstances have changed and that the young Daisy he knew back then is no longer available for him. However, he tries to court her by impressing her with his money. And that is basically the only thing that Daisy is interested in. But Daisy does seem to care for Gatsby, and maybe she even loves him. However, she chooses Tom over Gatsby. She says that she loved them both. “I did love him once-but I loved you too.” (Fitzgerald 140) In the end of the book, Daisy lets Gatsby take the blame for her accident. Instead of attending Gatsby’s funeral, she and Tom move away. It seems like Daisy was not really in love with Gatsby, but only interested in his wealth.

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  2. I agree with Josefina. The relationship between Gatsby and Daisy is more of a one way street. Gatsby idolizes the Daisy he knew five years ago and is stuck with this idea of her. Gatsby was madly in love with her to the extent that he bought a house and spent thousands of dollars in parties in hope of meeting her again. Daisy was the reason he worked so hard to get rich in the first place. Daisy, the young one, was falling in love with Gatsby but she, as Josefina pointed out, was searching for someone that could provide financial security. With time, Daisy became more rushed to find this security and fell in the lap of Tom Buchanan. Daisy’s love for money defeated her love for Gatsby. Daisy loves both Gatsby and Tom because both are rich respected men. Because of this, the relationship between Daisy and Gatsby is an illusion kept together by the memories of a better past in which love was just enough to keep a couple together. They were meant to be, but not anymore.

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  3. I agree with Xavier. The relationship between Daisy and Gatsby is a very simple yet complex one. The simple part of it is that they care for each other, but the complexion of it is the fact that that appreciation is conditional, at least for Daisy.
    What Daisy wished for was almost identical to what women at the time wanted fro themselves. A wealthy husban who could provide for her every thing she wanted.
    Gatsby on the other hand, believs that their love is true and inconditional.
    Both of them have their minds set up on believing different kinds of love.

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  4. Like what Josefina said, in 1919, Gatsby was an officer in the army who was stationed where Daisy had lived before she married Tom. When he met Daisy, he fell in love with her and “given Daisy a sense of security; he lets her believe that he was a person from much the same strata as herself-that he was fully able to take care of her” (Fitzgerald 156). Daisy had wanted that. She wanted a husband who was rich and could take care of her and make her feel happy. So that was when she fell in love with Gatsby. Until the time when Gatsby had to leave for war, Daisy went for other men and that is when she met Tom, who was rich and fulfilled the requirements she wanted. During this time, Gatsby tried to make large amounts of money and that is when five years later, when Gatsby showed Daisy all his riches and impressed her with his luxuries that is when she said to Gatsby, “you know I love you” (123). I agree with Xara that Daisy is one of the typical girls who prefers a rich husband than a quality man for a rich husband can give expensive presents to his wife. Gatsby tried so hard to become a rich man just to make a better man for Daisy, however Daisy only loved him because he was wealthy.

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  5. Gatsby's relationship with Daisy is rare. They met many years ago, and were once lovers. However, being apart for a long time got them separated, leading each of them to different lives. But Gatsby became obsessed with Daisy. He idolized her, and it became his purpose of life to get her back. Although they were once lovers, it was the past. Daisy moved on, she married another man who was from the same wealthy social status. Gatsby's love for Daisy became an obsession. His life basically was wasted on her. He does not realize that this is love but something else. It is more like an adoration of her. At the end, it seems as if Daisy would be back with Gatsby; but we see that the Buchanan family is bad. Daisy escapes with Tom to some place. Gatsby dies in that same house that he bought hoping to see Daisy some day in his future, and he is forgotten. No one came to his funeral, even Daisy. For Gatsby, Daisy was his everything. But for Daisy, Gatsby was only her past.

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  6. Gatsby and Daisy fell in love while Gatsby was stationed near her house. Gatsby very much loved her, "The officer looked at Daisy while she was speaking, in a way that every young girl wants to be looked at ...” And Daisy loved him equally in return for she planned to go say goodbye to him in New York before he left for war, and when her permission was denied she did not speak to her family for several weeks. I do believe they both loved each other equally, and if Gatsby had not gone to war they might be together. But, he did go, and during war he thought of nothing else but her. But if you think too much of a girl, without actually seeing her, you start to glorify her in your mind and she becomes this perfect human who no one else can come even close to. While he was away Daisy continued her normal life of being pursued by men, and after a while she got tired of waiting for him and married. But even though she married she never forgot Gatsby for in the night before her wedding she took the ring off and told Jordan to take it back to Tom after reading Gatsby´s letter (and drinking a bit). That’s the problem with their relationship, when they split paths Gatsby was not near any woman and he kept glorifying Daisy in his mind, while Daisy continued going out with different men and leaving Gatsby in the past. Their relationship could have succeeded if Daisy would have waited a bit longer, but then Gatsby might not have earned his fortune, even though he would have preferred Daisy over his fortune.

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  7. I believe that Gatsby's relation with Daisy at first was love. When they first encountered, Gatsby was a young soldier that just entered the war innocently, and the Daisy was a young girl. After the war, years passed on. They were separate and while Gatsby patiently waited, Daisy was unable to. Daisy gladly would marry Tom as he was a rich man and an age to marry already. Gatsby was a man who was stuck in the past, not forgetting his first love. As the years passed, Daisy had changed, but Gatsby would refuse to believe the reality he was facing. He would just remember the Daisy that he had seen many years ago, and not let go. I believe that Daisy used this weakness agsinst Gatsby. All Daisy spoke of was money. That was her reason to be with Gatsby and Tom in the first place. The relationship they have later on in their lives is more parasitical than love, as Daisy is leeching off Gatsby. If Daisy had kept her own self like years ago, they would work out just fine, but people do change.

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